I realized that there is one interesting thing I have learned in my journey of losing weight and getting healthy, and it is the very same thing that can be used in anything from world wars to story characters to arguments with your children--choose your battles.
So I chose to say thanks but no thanks and take the victory over that particular battle.
My theory is that depriving myself only makes me want it more, but knowing that it is okay to have it when needed keeps the moderation factor at the forefront of my mind and gives me a great ego boast and feeling of control when I CHOOSE when the need is great and when I can simply appreciate the site of a pretty donut without devouring it.
And, embarassing as this is to show the world, I simply want those others struggling with weight or self-confidence to see that small steps work, small realization like the above--choosing the battles to win, and choosing the battles to concede to--and making small healthy choices that you can live with on a daily bases, giving yourself a break after a "bad" day, moving more and realizing that a simple walk clears the mind as well as does the body good, that for just sticking with it, you CAN become the person you want to be both inside and out...
...and feel good about your efforts and results. And believe me, I'm not aiming for model thin or even where all the BMI and reports say someone my age, size etc should be; I am simply trying to find the place I can say yeah, this is where I feel good for me. Because first and foremost, I've learned that you have to do it for YOU.